Tomi R. Sackett


Tomi Ruth Sackett, age 76, peacefully passed on to join her beloved husband and family members in Heaven on June 8, 2019. She passed at home in Edmond, Okla., where she was surrounded my numerous family members, all of whom stayed by her side telling family stories, singing songs, laughing together, and holding her hands.
Tomi was born Tommy Ruth Mauldin on Aug. 22, 1942, at St. Francis Hospital in Oklahoma City, Okla., to Tom Mauldin and Ruth Mauldin (Janes) of Midwest City, Okla. She attended school in the Mid-Del Public School System at Eastside Elementary, Jarman Jr. High, and MWC High, while also attending some high school at Mount St. Mary High in Oklahoma City, Okla. Tomi later earned a bachelor's degree from SNU in Bethany, Okla., a master's degree from OU in Norman, Okla., and an honorary doctorate from Walden University out of Minneapolis, Minn. Each of her degrees was in the field of Behavioral Health, which later enabled her to work as a counselor for the State of Oklahoma.
Throughout her adult life, Tomi also proudly worked as a secretary at Tinker Air Force Base, as an executive assistant at the State of Oklahoma, as a bookkeeper at ABT Computer Service, and as the creator and president of Positively Single Inc. She was also trained in graphoanalysis and hypotherapy, both of which she used to the delight of many throughout her career.
Tomi was well known by her friends and family as a talented singer with a sultry alto voice, as well as a soulful dancer with a particular fondness for dancing the Jitterbug and the Cha-Cha. She was also known as a fun-loving person who had a wonderful sense of humor and an adventurous spirit. But most of all, Tomi was best known as everybody's Mom and caretaker, who always had an open door policy for family and who was always available to help those in need, especially family.
Tomi is preceded in death (by 3 months) by her adoring husband of 15 years, Lowell Robert "Bob" Sackett, who she fondly called "Bobby Boy." She is also preceded in death by her mother and father; sister, Kathi; brothers, Bill and Eddie; nephews, Robbie, Bobby and Danny; and niece, Cynde Kay.
Tomi is survived by her son, Darrell Wilson and wife, Robin of Tulsa, Okla.; daughter, Chani Hileman and husband, Eric of Edmond, Okla.; son, John Latzke and wife, Kristy of Stillwater, Okla.; and daughter, Kathi Lee and husband, Mark of Edmond, Okla. Tomi is also survived by her grandchildren (in birth order), Rachel Wise, Seth Wilson, Brett Hileman, Rebekah Wilson, Grant Hileman, John Latzke, Emily Hileman, Anna Wilson, Kaytee Latzke, Madison Lee, and Kaden Lee, all of whom lovingly knew her as "GG." Additionally, Tomi is survived by her brother, Walter F. Cartwright and his wife, Denise; sister, Donalyn Callaway; brother, Tim Mauldin and his wife, Georjana; and sister, Frances Stinson; as well as numerous great-grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and cousins.
Tomi was the matriarch of her family and was deeply loved by her children, grandchildren, siblings, and cousins. She was the epitome of unconditional love and acceptance, and she will be forever, profoundly missed.
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Karen Suchak
Jun 20, 2019
Mrs. Sackett made me feel valued and needed. I will always feel special by the words she said to me. So sorry for your loss.
Grant Hileman
Jun 19, 2019
Growing up and getting to live with my GG set a pretty high bar for what a person could be, to say the least. Her example of absolute unconditional love, kindness, humor, and humanity helped lay the foundation for whom I and many others are as people today. I had a feeling at a very young age that I would never meet a better example of a human being than GG. I’ve been right so far, and odds are I'll stay right for the rest of my life.

If you ever had the pleasure of knowing GG, you knew she was more than an amazing woman... She was a living sanctuary - a home, an ear for anyone who needed someone to listen, and an endless source of wisdom for whoever felt lost or scared.

GG lit up the ni
...ght sky simply by being her truest self, and she saw that same light in every single person she met. Her light made waves that will continue to impact us all for generations to come.

So here’s to a true legend, and my biggest hero - I love you GG! Always have, always will.

Your grandson,

–Grant "Jolly Green" Hileman
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Donna Flanagan Barnard
Jun 17, 2019
We will miss our fun-loving cousin who always had kind words for everyone. One fun memory was the day she showed up in an Isetta car that had three wheels and a door on the front! Lots of great memories of Tomi Ruth. Here’s a photo of an Isetta like the one she had that day.....
Mary Velma (Flanagan) Ward
Jun 17, 2019
I will forever miss the unforgettable Tomi. Just 2 years older, my cousin and best friend “Tommy Ruth” was my idol growing up. As I tagged along behind her she taught me to be adventurous & brave..kind to others..put family first ..and always, always find the humor in every situation. Unfortunately I was never as adventurous and brave as she was but when she was at the top of the tree (literally) or riding a horse or jumping off the 3rd tower at Elmwood pool I’d be as close behind her as possible, holding my breath and with my eyes shut. Life was an adventure when you were with her, and what an adventure it was! I want to thank her children for allowing me to be there for the day of her life. I know the final going away party with the music, singing and laughter is exactly what she would have wanted and I also know she will still be there in spirit for all our parties to come. I loved her very much.Read more
Chani Hileman
Jun 16, 2019
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